She's gone and done it now. Theres no turning back. I can't beleive it's over. We celebrated with her with reservation. What a change. What a difference. How her life is going to be different. Should we have been happy for her? I tried , I really did. Actually at times I must have been. But today I weep for her (she has no idea). I miss her and hope her life will be happy but I am unsure. Is it enough? Will her life be good without the normalness of living in North America? Canada?? My favorite country in the world!!
Why are you wondering what I'm talking about? It's my sister, dear sister.. she's gone off and married a Pakistani! Not any old pakistani - one that actually resides in Pakistan and has no desire to actually leave the country!!
I have to admit though, the country is not as bad as I thought it would be. Sure there are cultural differences, like women can't just walk around late at night for any old reason. But then again, do you feel safe walking the streets of Toronto in the middle of the night? And if so, why the hell are you walking the streets of Toronto in the middle of the night - and by yourself? That's just crazy. Especially if you're married and don't have to do stuff like that.. unless it's to get away from your crazy husband.. hehehe.. well, I gotta have a sense of humour about it don't I?
Anyways, here are my wishes for my sister:
1) she's happy
2) her husband dotes her and has the patience to accept her the way she is
3) her sis' in laws don't drive her insane
4) she doesn't have kids *right away* (though i'm sure she would be thrilled to, quite literally)
5) she learns the language quick
6) she becomes independent, drives and learns to manage the difference in cultural
7) she has kids at the appropriate time in her marriage, after she's really gotten to know her hubby
8) her family gets to see her as often as they want, she comes to Canada all the time
9) if she wants to, she gets a job in her field
10) she doesn't miss home too too much
well thats it for me and this post. hopefully she'll grow up and mature in the next couple of weeks cuz I think this year is going to be a toughy!!
bye for now,
cbmg!
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Good luck to ur sis
usually people make the reverse trip. But many moved from paki to canada and made pretty good living. I am sure the reverse is do able. we r just spoiled but will handle watever life brings
You write very well.
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