Settling - phase1

Today I am thinking about the settling. No - there isn't someone out there to settle for. And don't worry, I don't think I'm the type to just jump in and go for it - although part of me wishes I was - I keep thinking life would be much easier that way! I'm just thinking about the concept of settling. I think almost anyone knows what I mean by the term, although we don't all see it with the same potency or negativity.

So what's it all about? In my mind I have all these qualities I'm looking for in a spouse. I can't convince myself that I'm picky but I think most would consider me to be that way. Perhaps they just don't understand the need, importance and desire to marry someone who belongs to their religious community. This one aspect limits my potential matches astronomically. You would think it's not such a big deal or limiting factor but I assure you that it is. It's simply that on a given day you meet/bump into or exchange dialogue with a bunch of people. Unless you're actually at mosuqe or a social event comprising of people from your community, 97 times out of 100 they're not going to be Muslim. Out of those 3.... well you get that it could be women, children, elders, married people etc. etc.

Anyways, I'm side tracking... my quest today is not to talk about the lack of marriagible people. It's about the errrm....less appealing attributes to some of the boys I have come into contact with.

I'm not a crazy religious muslim but I aspire to be a better one eveyrday. I don't wear a hijab and I can't actually imagine myself doing so. Ok, I know it's an important aspect....I have friends that do so. Something about wearing one doesn't appeal to me and I truly believe you have to be solid in your belief and conviction to wear it right. I would not like to be someone who wears it one day and takes it off the next. At this point I probably shouldn't tell you that I love wearing tank tops in the summer but I do. It's just comfortable and I feel like myself. Anywhos, I'm getting distracted again.

I don't drink or smoke. I have never tried it and I have absolutely no desire to intoxicate my body with these substances. For me, this resolve has been above and beyond the religious guidelines forbidding it.